We all remember the awkward, uncomfortable, and dare I say horrible lessons we got as youth on the Law of Chastity. One of my goals as a sex coach is to help change how we view sexuality and empower parents and leaders to have better conversations (although they may still be awkward) with their children and youth about sex and healthy sexuality.
I believe that the theology and doctrine of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints are very much in alignment with a healthy sexual relationship between husband and wife. But often in the culture of Conservative Christian religions, the way that anything sexual is approached is often done with a lot of fear and shame-based tactics. I have seen changes to improve these tactics over the last few years, but I believe that many people fall back on the ways they were taught about it rather than adopting the new ways that are being taught. They are falling back into the shame that they feel about sexuality when they teach it to their children and youth.
I also believe that churches, instructors, and as parents we love our children and have very good intentions in the way that sexual things are presented. But I am always worried about lessons on sexuality will be approached. I think sexual discussions that are taught by untrained people to a group of impressionable preteens and teens (even ones that are well-meaning) are not a good idea. I would guess that many youth do not have parents that are giving them better teachings in their home and worry about how these lessons are not only taught, but also perceived.
I have created a discussion guide for parents to talk to their youth about the Law of Chastity. It is educational, loving, but is very bold and to the point.
If you/they need additional resources and help, feel free to reach out to me personally.
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In addition to the parent guide, I have included a lesson plan outline from a recent Come, Follow Me lesson to the youth on the Law of Chastity (from 6/26/22).