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Amanda coached on the following:

1. (02:34) – My husband and I are looking at a separation/ divorce. We have been married for 8 years and I have asked him many times for him to lead our marriage spiritually and be an active participant in our relationship to build emotional and physical intimacy, but it seems like we don’t make real progress. He is kind and takes care of me by cooking dinner, being there for me when I’m sick, putting gas in my car, etc but there’s no intimacy and I’m tired of begging him to take action to build a deeper relationship. We moved to Florida in June 2022 and he finally told me he’s not happy living here or in our marriage. Our lease is up in August and we are trying to decide whether or not to stay together. I think what I desire from this coaching is 1. T know when enough is enough and it’s time to move on from a relationship. I am tired of being in a relationship with someone that doesn’t act like they want to build a life with me or develop themself. 2. I’ve kind of stopped trying to work on our marriage at this point and I’m determining what I need to do to prepare for being single and I wonder if I start actively trying again to make our marriage work that I will continue to talk myself into staying “just a little longer” to see if it gets to the kind of relationship I desire. He’s not a bad person, he’s very kind, but I can’t see being with him for much longer. I’m unsure if we split if I would be able to find a man that is kind like he is though, so I think that is why I hold on, because I kind of feel like someone that is there and consistent is better than no one.
2. (20:45) – My marriage is struggling and I haven’t decided which way to go.  I’m afraid to try because it might not work out the way I want it to.
3. (36:53) – I got a new job opportunity and it will pay more and be a challenge and I’m afraid that maybe they will think they made a mistake hiring me and I will regret leaving the job I’ve had for 20 years.
4. (45:03) – I listened to your episode on style and I’m trying to figure out what I think about it.  I don’t want to be someone who puts on makeup and does her hair every day.  But I judge others for doing that.  I think I am still referencing outside of myself.