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Amanda coached on the following:

1. (01:26) – I would like to work on my thoughts around my husband. I notice often times I feel unsettled because I feel that in times of crisis or if something goes wrong – his response – which I now know is from his childhood trauma is anger. It’s just words and tone but when it happens I feel hurt and then I shut down. I’ve done some models on it.
   C- Husband says words
   T – If he really loved me he wouldn’t talk to me in that tone.
   F – sad
   A – I shut down – avoid – feel hurt – think about how he’s done this in the past – try to understand where he’s coming from – but also I have a hard time understanding how he could shift in and out of it so quickly – so i feel also confused.
   R – I don’t feel loved. – I perpetuate the feeling of sadness.
   
   I get it that I’m doing this but I can’t figure out how to make it stop or should I just accept this thought and feeling.