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Quizzes, guides, and worksheets you can start using today. Each one is free, works for men and women, and takes just a few minutes to get started.

Quiz

How Healthy Are You and Your Marriage?

A great sex life is built on a healthy you and a healthy marriage. This quick quiz shows you which one is helping and which one might be holding you back, then sends you a free guide with simple steps you can start this week.

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Quiz

The Sexual Self Snapshot

Find out what fuels your desire, what shuts it down, and how you show up in sex. See your results right away and get three free guides with practical ways to use what you learn. Take it on your own, or have your spouse take it too and compare.

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Guide

Conflict Conversation Guide

When something's on your mind, it's tempting to just say it and hope it goes well. This guide walks you through getting grounded first, asking for the conversation, and saying what matters clearly and kindly. A fill-in script and an example show you exactly how it sounds.

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Quiz

What’s Your Conflict Style?

When things get heated, most of us fall into the same pattern again and again. This 12-question quiz shows you which one you reach for most, and your free guide shows you what to do instead, including how to stay steady when your spouse is the one doing it.

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Guide

16 Ways to Say 'No'

The only time to say yes is when you really want to have sex. There are ways to say no that build the relationship instead of hurting it. Download this freebie to find all 16.

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Guided List

Roadmap to Pleasure

As babies we naturally know how we like to be touched, and we often lose that knowledge as we get older. This guided list helps you find out how you like to be touched.

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Worksheet

Yes / No / Maybe List

Know you want to try something new but not sure what? Rate each item by how much you want to try it. Come back every so often to see if some of your maybes are now yeses.

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Over 400 episodes on sex, desire, shame, and marriage. Start with the free Podcast Guide to find the episodes that fit where you are right now.

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