All of these resources are ones I personally use.
Please seek out medical advice if needed and use your own personal
judgment if they are going to work for you.

Apps

If you want to spice things up in the bedroom, but you don’t know where to start, here are some apps I like.  All of these apps are on iOS, but there are probably similar ones on Android.

This app has some fun questions and answer games.

This app has all sorts of questions to ask each other and ideas for new things.

This is pretty robust and comes from a Christian perspective, so nothing too crazy. It’s got conversation starters, intimacy games, daily challenges, Sexploration list, intimacy bucket list, and dozens of articles from sex experts, and much more!  This app is also available on Android.

This one is a private messaging app where you and your spouse can send messages, pictures, and videos, and they won’t get uploaded to the cloud or be available on other devices. It takes a special password to get in.

This is a fun app where they give you suggestions for new things to try with your partner, and you can yes, no, or maybe. If your spouse matches what you say, then you get to see the answers and make a list of things you want to try. Some ideas are probably too far fetched for most LDS couples, but lots of ideas to stretch your mind. 

For more information about these apps, listen to Episode 88.

Recommended Books

Recommended Books

by Laurie Mintz

by Emily Nagoski

by Ian Kerner

The thinking man’s guide to pleasuring a woman

by Sheri Winston

by Ian Kerner

The empowered woman’s guide to pleasuring a man

by John Gottman

by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D.

by Glennon Doyle

This book is a must read for every woman on the planet.  It will reinforce all the of the things you learn in coaching and point you to WHY you want coaching…to understand and love yourself better.

by Brené Brown

by Emily Nagoski, PhD

Lingerie

I love this company.  All of their images are model-free so you aren’t comparing your body to the model’s.  It’s also safe for husband to shop as well! Sizes XS-3X.  The lingerie is beautiful and comfortable enough to sleep in.

USA and Christian owned store offering adult products and resources (clothing, toys, furniture, etc.)

Personal Lubricant

Use the code “Amanda” at checkout for 15% off. They have water-based and oil-based.

Silicone lubricant

They have lots of different flavors.

Flavored Lubricant for Oral (do not use with intercourse!)

Candy Flavored Lube

Flavored Lubricant for Oral (do not use with intercourse!)

Vibrators & Toys

My favorite toys are now in my Shop!  If you find a toy on another website but would rather purchase it from me, please send me an email and I can price it for you. amanda@AmandaLouder.com

USA and Christian owned store offering adult products and resources (clothing, toys, furniture, etc.)

Another great one to start with.

Kegel Balls

These strengthen your kegel muscles but they can also be very pleasurable (see episode 138 for more info)

These are a textured silicone eggs for male stimulation.

This is the type that I carry in my shop, but this is a great place to go for even more toys or for sale prices.

When you are ready to invest a little bit more into toys, this is the brand I suggest.

Sex Clean Up

Dripstick – the world’s first after-sex clean-up sponge that removes excess fluid from the vaginal canal. Get 10% off when you order through my link.

Novelties

Oral Sex Helps

Use in the shower to help with smell.

Use in the shower to help with smell.

A thin layer of latex that protects your mouth.

This has four interlocking rings that help with the depth of oral sex you want to be at.

Books to Get you "In the Mood"

These books were all recommended by LDS friends, but you need to draw your own line on what is appropriate for you and what isn’t.  I have not read most of these, so read at your own discretion.

by Stacy Reid

(Regency Style)

by Stacy Reid

(Regency Style)

by Annika Martin

Comedy with steamy scenes

 

Recommended author

Clean romance. There are bare chests for the men, and passionate kissing, but nothing more is described.

Clean romance. There are bare chests for the men, and passionate kissing, but nothing more is described.

by Several Authors, Several Time Periods (regency, modern, steampunk)

Nothing explicit, just enough to get you thinking and feeling

by Sarah J. Maas

by Sarah J. Maas

by Jennifer L. Armentrout

Courses

No Kegels University™

Use code AmandaL to get 10% off

Sidekick to Hero

Use code amandalouder for 10% off

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