Hi, I’m Amanda Louder

My speciality is helping Conservative Christian women learn to embrace their sexuality, and love their sex life (for them!) And I absolutely love serving women and marriages in this way, and do this through my Embrace You! Elite Society Membership.

I also love helping couples overcome the obstacles and dynamics they have co-created and help them create a more intimate and passionate connection. I do this through Couples Coaching.

I grew up just north of Salt Lake City, Utah as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon) in a strong two-parent home with two younger siblings. After graduating high school, I attended Brigham Young University and studied Business Management with an emphasis in Entrepreneurship. I married my first husband just after my Freshman year.  Together we had 3 children and we divorced after 13-years of marriage.

I’ve been married to my amazing husband Kevin since 2012 and we have a beautiful life together.  I am a step-mom to his two daughters, and our five children are now ages 15-24. I’ve also recently become a dog mom to our cute maltipoo (I never thought I would say that!)

After growing up in a home where we didn’t talk about sex, I had a lot of shame around my sexuality and spent almost my entire first marriage hating sex.  I didn’t enjoy it, didn’t have pleasure from it, and only did it to get him off of my back for a while.  But when our marriage really started going south I thought that maybe improving our sex life would help, so I starting learning everything I could about sex and sexuality, despite my deep shame.

What I learned is that I didn’t have a very good relationship with myself.  And through working on myself and sex, I began to change.  I no longer felt powerless in my marriage and my confidence grew.  I quickly realized that sex wasn’t going to fix my marriage, and it ended in divorce.  But better things were on the horizon.

Now that I am married to Kevin, I am living the life I always dreamed of.  We have an amazing marriage and a great sex life.  I have been coaching women and couples in their marriages since 2018 and I feel happier and more content than I have ever been.   I want that for you too.

Kevin and I live in Salt Lake City.  When we aren’t watch our middle daughter play college softball, you can usually find us on weekends camping and fishing for salmon on a local area lake.  Together we own a Kokanee salmon fishing tackle company, Nebo Fishing.  In my spare time, I love to read, and binge shows on Netflix.