Couples Coaching

Heal deep hurt, restore intimacy, and create the marriage and sexual relationship you've always wanted.

Both one-on-one sessions and as a couple

Is your marriage and sexual relationship not what you expected?

Most couples go into marriage excited about the future and their sexual relationship. Unfortunately, most of us were not prepared for what that actually entailed. Unrealized familial, religious, and societal conditioning around sex shaped our ideas of what our marriage IS and what we think it SHOULD be. But most of that conditioning was wrong and set us up to create a lot of heartache and unmet expectations. If you are tired of fighting about sex, tired of feeling unloved, undesired, or resentful, or feel like sex is the only thing that matters to your spouse, let’s change that.

In couples coaching, we address the unhealthy patterns the two of you have created that are interfering with a good marriage and good sex. We address how you are each participating (or not participating) in that dynamic. We look at how the sexual dynamic is a reflection of what is happening in the marriage, individually and as a couple. We also work to overcome desire discrepancies, and create more emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical intimacy.

In traditional couples therapy you spend a lot of time training each other to “meet your needs,” which works…until the person who asked you to do something wonders if you are doing it because you truly want to and love them OR you are just doing it because they asked you to. Basically, a lot of couples therapy really doesn’t work. Coaching moves you into a more integrity-based mindset that is both healing and transformative.

Coaching isn’t about propelling the lower-desire partner into having more sex to accommodate their spouse. Coaching is about helping you find the freedom and security in being true to yourself, while working to create a collaborative marriage that honors the best in the both of you and create a sexual relationship that is worth wanting.

Changed the dynamic in my marriage

I don’t even know where to start because there are sooo many good things to say about Amanda and her program. What I can say without a doubt though is that Amanda’s program completely changed the dynamic in my marriage. My husband and I have been through a few different counselors with little progress. It wasn’t until we went through Amanda’s program that things really started changing for the absolute best. Amanda was really good about offering empathy where needed but also putting my husband or I in check when needed but she never did it in such a way that felt like she was choosing sides like some of our past counselors had. I always felt like I was in a safe environment where I could literally tell her everything and her soft yet firm coaching was always the key to the problems I was trying to solve.

If not for Amanda’s program, I believe my marriage would be in a worse state but thankfully, it is very much the opposite. So, if you’re not sure whether or not to join Amanda’s coaching program, I would 10/10 recommend you take the leap and join. It’s definitely worth the investment and I promise you that if you do the work with an open mind, your life will forever be changed. I cannot thank Amanda enough for doing what she does. She takes a lot of flak for her line of work but I am so grateful she leans into the opposition and helps people. She truly cares and is an amazing human being.

Oakley Jones

A Powerful Way to Reconnect and Solve Relationship Issues

Working with Amanda was a game-changer for my wife and me. I initially sought her out because I was concerned about a lack of physical intimacy in our marriage. What’s incredible is that we didn’t even talk about sex in our sessions, yet Amanda helped us connect emotionally in a way that ultimately brought that physical intimacy back naturally.

Her tools for collaboration, beliefs, thoughts, and boundaries were particularly impactful. Amanda has this amazing ability to be kind and direct, but completely non-judgmental. She presents concepts that just click, making them come alive and helping us work through our issues quickly and efficiently. After 25 years of marriage, I genuinely feel closer to my wife than ever before, and she feels the exact same way. I only wish we’d met Amanda much earlier in our marriage.For anyone considering working with Amanda, I highly recommend it, in just a few sessions we made extraordinary progress on our relationship.

Todd

Here's what you get:

Work privately with me (learn more about me here)
Customized program tailored to fit your needs
Couple and individual sessions
Identify specific problems and dynamics
Skills and tools to fix problems and heal

Here's what it looks like

Meet on Zoom weekly. I typically coach Tu/We/Th from 10am-2pm MT. If you need sessions outside of these times, please contact me.
Sessions are 90 minutes for couples, 45 minutes for individuals

Investment

Coaching is definitely an investment. It’s an investment in each of you as individuals as well as you as a couple.

When Latter-day Saint couples are sealed in the temple, they covenant to labor together. Part of laboring together is working on your individual growth as well as your growth as a couple.

“If we truly believe we are meant to be like our Heavenly Parents then all of us need some serious soul development. Families need to invest time, money, and resources into BOTH husbands and wives development… considering the return on investment being eternal rather than simply monetary.”

– Authors McArthur Krishna & Bethany Brady Spalding in their book “In the Image of our Heavenly Parents – A Couples Guide to Create a More Divine Marriage.

Packages are purchased in minutes rather than sessions, so you can use your time the way that serves you.

Couples sessions run 90 minutes. Individual sessions with one of you run 45 minutes. Most couples use a mix of both, and buying minutes means we can decide that together as we go instead of at the start.

Packages are available in the following options:
540 minutes - $3375
720 minutes - $4500 (most common)
12 Sessions - $6750
16 Sessions - $9000

Most couples start with 720 minutes. That tends to be enough time to get real traction on what brought you in, and we can add time later if you want to keep going.

We will discuss which option I think will be most beneficial for you during our consultation. Your $99 consultation fee is applied toward whichever package you choose.

Payment plans are available. Both husband and wife need to be willing to do the work together. If this doesn’t work for you, please consider joining either my membership for women or my private coaching for individuals. Once packages are done, you have the ability to purchase one-off sessions or buy another smaller package. Please see my FAQ before scheduling a consultation.