As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!
In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be.
She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.
In this episode, I talk about how most of us have misunderstood foreplay and why it’s not just something that happens right before sex. I share how true connection and desire are built throughout the entire day, not just in a rushed few minutes, and walk through five different types
Have you ever caught yourself wondering, “Did I marry the right person?” I want to show you why that question is actually leading you in the wrong direction and what matters so much more. In this episode, I break down the two things that truly determine whether a relationship will
If you’ve been trying everything to fix your sex life and nothing seems to be working, this episode might feel a little uncomfortable, but also like a breath of fresh air. I’m sharing why the harder you push for connection, the more distance you might actually be creating, and what’s
In this episode, I talk about a sexual experience that doesn’t get discussed nearly enough, mutual masturbation, and why it can be so powerful for connection, communication, and intimacy in marriage. I walk you through how learning your own body is essential before you can share that knowledge with your
What if intimacy in your marriage didn’t actually depend on your spouse showing up first? In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful shift that changes how we think about emotional connection and why so many relationships feel one-sided. We will talk about what intimacy really means and how you can
Many women assume their lack of desire means something is wrong with them, but in this episode, I am going to explain that the real issue is often passive sexuality. We’ll explore the difference between waiting for a spouse to create desire and actively engaging with your own sexuality. Through
I want to talk about why sex can feel draining instead of connecting, even when it’s happening regularly, and how that disconnect quietly impacts a marriage. What does nourishing sex actually look like and why does obligation, performance, and one-sided dynamics make intimacy feel heavy instead of life-giving? Through real
When a woman says she’d be completely fine never having sex again, I know something important has already broken. In this episode, I unpack why so many women in faith-based marriages end up here, even when they once loved sex, and how obligation, pressure, and shame quietly kill desire over
Have you ever had the experience where your spouse walks past you in the kitchen and doesn’t even acknowledge you? Or when it seems like they’d rather scroll on their phone than talk to you? In this episode, I break down what it really means to feel desired in marriage
In this episode of Sex for Saints, I walk through the six stages of marriage and explain why so many couples feel stuck, disconnected, or ready to give up around stage three. I break down what each stage looks like in real life, from the honeymoon phase to frustration, growth,
In this episode, I talk about a struggle I hear from women all the time but that rarely gets named out loud: loving your husband deeply while feeling disconnected from his body. I discuss where that discomfort often comes from, especially for women who grew up with strong messages about
In this episode, I’ll talk about one of the most painful sexual dynamics I see in marriages: when a wife has been self-betraying for years by having sex she doesn’t want, while her husband still feels unsatisfied. I’ll explain why orgasms aren’t the same thing as satisfaction, and how duty
In this episode, I talk about what happens when a spouse’s sexual past becomes a source of anxiety, comparison, guilt, or secrecy inside a marriage. I unpack why obsessive thoughts about a partner’s past aren’t really about what happened then, but about fear and insecurity now, and why no amount
In this episode, I want to talk about something a lot of women quietly wonder but rarely say out loud: what if sex isn’t bad, but it’s also not very good? In this episode, I unpack why so many women experience sex as “meh,” even in loving marriages where both
In this episode, I’m inviting you to look at a pattern that might be quietly shaping your sex life without you realizing it. We’re talking about what happens when sex becomes a way to soothe anxiety, seek reassurance, or calm uncomfortable emotions instead of a place of desire and connection.
Have you ever noticed how sex can feel like something you “check off,” followed by days or weeks of not thinking about it at all? In this episode, I’m inviting you to consider a different way of relating to your sexuality that doesn’t require pressure, performance, or forcing yourself to
In this episode, I’m talking about the lies your brain tells you about sex and how those thoughts quietly sabotage connection in your marriage. I explain why your brain is wired to see sexual vulnerability as a threat, how past experiences and conditioning shape the stories you believe, and why
This episode marks my 400th conversation about sex, marriage, and building a relationship that actually feels good to live inside, and I’m incredibly grateful you’re here for it. To celebrate, I dive into why flirting can either create connection and desire or quietly turn into pressure that pushes your spouse