As the holiday season approaches, there’s a palpable shift in the air. Perhaps it’s the twinkling lights, the cozy sweaters, or the familiar scent of cinnamon and cloves. The holidays are a time of nostalgia, a time when we find ourselves surrounded by warmth and comfort. And, as it turns out, nostalgia and comfort can be potent aphrodisiacs.

Some good friends of mine have 7 children, all born in the month of September. All conceived around Christmas. It was something that we often laughed about because for them, Christmas was not only a time of holiday cheer but a time of getting it on.  And no, it wasn’t the only time of year. They are a great couple with a great relationship and chemistry.  But it made me think.  Is it just them? Or could there be something in the air around the holidays that make us a bit horny. Does the Christmas season spark some sensual flames within us?

There are some studies that show higher condom sales during the winter.  There’s also some funny statistics about more men showing up in the ER with penis fractures in December compared to other times of the year.  And, more babies are conceived during December than any other time of the year, so it sounds like my friends were following that trend.

So why is there an increase in sexual interest and behavior around the holidays?  Well, we don’t really know for sure and it’s probably not just one thing.  There are probably some biological factors, some psychological factors, as well as some social and environmental factors that are playing a role in this.  So let’s dig into some of those.

On the biological side, there’s some seasonal variation in hormones and neurotransmitters.  As the temperature drops, our bodies respond by producing higher levels of oxytocin, commonly known as the “love hormone.” This hormone is associated with bonding, trust, and feelings of warmth. It’s not just a coincidence that the holidays, often marked by colder weather, coincide with an increased desire for physical closeness.

The cozy ambiance of a winter evening, combined with the release of oxytocin, can create a perfect storm for heightened sensuality. Whether it’s a gentle touch, a warm embrace, or an intimate moment by the fireplace, our bodies are biologically primed for increased connection during this season.

During the winter, we also often have less sunlight exposure.  Sunlight exposure is linked to the production of serotonin, which is the neurotransmitter that helps regulate mood.  That is why so many struggle with the winter blues or even seasonal affective disorder.  So it makes sense that people might be seeking out more sexual and intimate experiences in order to compensate for negative mood changes that often happen this time of year.  

On the psychological side, many people will take time off of work or go on vacation, which can relieve stress.   We’ve talked about stress many times here on the podcast and how it can be one of the biggest libido killers.  And while the holidays can be magical, they can also be stressful.  The pressure of finding the perfect gifts, coordinating and attending events, and navigating complex family dynamics can create tension. Interestingly, this heightened stress can paradoxically contribute to an increased desire for intimacy for some.

Engaging in physical activity, whether it’s a passionate encounter or a simple cuddle session, triggers the release of endorphins – the body’s natural stress relievers. The intimate connection we share with our partners becomes a sanctuary, a haven from the demands and expectations of the holiday season. It’s a powerful reminder that in moments of stress, the warmth of human connection can be a soothing balm.

Speaking of travel, vacations tend to be a great time for sexual connection.  Something new, out of the ordinary, away from the dishes and piles of laundry.  Vacation sex is the best.  But I’ve also heard of a lot of people feeling extra horny when visiting family over the holidays.  There’s probably an element of taboo when thinking about having sex in your childhood bedroom or with your parents in the next room that makes it fun and exciting.

And while we are on the topic of family, the holidays are inherently communal. Whether it’s a festive family gathering, a joyous holiday party, or an intimate evening by the fire, these shared experiences contribute to the creation of bonds that go beyond the surface. Laughter, shared meals, and the act of giving and receiving gifts all foster a unique sense of connection and intimacy.

And once Christmas is over and the year draws to a close, many people reflect on the past and set intentions for the future. The idea of new beginnings can be incredibly arousing. Whether it’s a new phase of your relationship, a commitment to self-love, or a resolution to explore new dimensions of pleasure, the holiday season can be a catalyst for positive change in our intimate lives.

And there you have it – a deep dive into the intriguing connection between the holiday season and our heightened sensuality. Whether it’s the nostalgia, shared experiences, seasonal arousal, stress relief, or the promise of new beginnings, the holidays have a unique way of stirring the embers of desire within us.

As always, thank you for joining me today.  If you enjoyed today’s episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share with friends. Until next time, remember, love is a journey, not a destination. Stay committed, stay passionate, and stay connected.  Merry Christmas and we will see you next week.