I want to be an example of hope for those who are struggling in their marriage.

I want to be a woman who is confident in herself

Who doesn’t let fear or failure stop her from reaching her true potential and goals

I want to be a woman who is constantly looking for ways to grow.

Who is always seeking to learn new things.

I want to be a woman of God

Who seeks to serve others

And see others as Christ sees them

I want to be a wife who loves unconditionally. 

That drops expectations. 

That looks for the good in my husband. 

Who realizes that life is 50/50 and so is our relationship. 

I want to be a mother and step-mother who helps her children be independent 

Who supports them in every way

Who looks for way to help them grow

and loves them fiercely 

Who helps them see the best in themselves and others

All of these things are possible because I choose to think thoughts that create the emotions and drive the actions to create this in my life.

Who do you want to be in 2019? What do you want for yourself?  In what areas do you want to grow, to stretch, to strengthen?

When you look back at the end of 2019 and see the year you’ve had, how do you want to feel?  Do you want to feel proud? Do you want to feel confident? Do you want to see growth?

Anything is possible!  It’s in our nature to want to grow and stretch.  It’s in our nature to want to create and contribute.  What does that look like for you?

And when you are thinking about WHO you want to be….I want you to think about WHY you want those things.  Do you want them because you want to be the best version of yourself?  Or do you want them because you think that once you do that you will be happy?

Because if that’s WHY you want those things, you are setting yourself up for failure.  Doing MORE and being MORE is not going to make you happy.  Happiness comes from your thoughts.  And the thoughts that make you happy are available to you right now.  You just have to CHOOSE to think them. 

Be HAPPY now…with what you have and who you are.  Being happy with what you have now will actually drive you to be better and do better in the future because you are coming from a place of abundance and not lack.

You are not going to be worth more as a human being if you are better than you are right now because you are 100% worthy of being loved at this very moment no matter what you do.  Your worth was determined before you ever came to this earth.  President Thomas S. Monson said it perfectly when he quoted these words: “The worth of a soul is its capacity to become as God.”​​

You have that capacity and that worth!

The Spirit reveals to us our identity—which isn’t just who we are but who we have always been. And that when we know, our lives take on a sense of purpose so stunning that we can never be the same again. – Sheri Dew (https://www.lds.org/study/ensign/2018/07/knowing-who-you-are-and-who-you-have-always-been?l=eng)

God sees our imperfections and shortcomings, but He also sees beyond them. – Tad R. Callister (https://www.lds.org/study/ensign/2018/02/what-can-i-do-to-teach-more-like-the-savior?l=eng)

1. “Over the years, I have observed that those who accomplish the most in this world are those with a vision for their lives, with goals to keep them focused on their vision and tactical plans for how to achieve them. Knowing where you are going and how you expect to get there can bring meaning, purpose, and accomplishment to life.” M. Russell Ballard  (https://www.lds.org/study/ensign/2017/05/saturday-afternoon-session/return-and-receive?l=eng)

I also want to help you work on your marriage, so in 2019 I am going to be introducing Focus Fridays.  I will continue to post on Social Media on Fridays about new episodes of the podcast by I will also be issuing a marriage challenge to go along with the podcast episode of something actionable you can do that week to focus on your marriage and hopefully improve it.