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Guilt

Episode 274 – Sexual Conditioning Guilt

  • Post published:July 21, 2023
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I often hear from my clients that they feel guilty about certain sexual things. When we really look into it, I question whether they’re feeling guilty, which to me means…

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Episode 273 – Overcoming Triggers – An Interview with Crystal Haitsma

  • Post published:July 14, 2023
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In this podcast, I’m talking with Crystal Haitsma about triggers. We hear the word all the time nowadays, but what does it really mean and how is it affecting our…

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decision

Episode 272 – Decision Not Desire

  • Post published:July 7, 2023
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So many women I’ve talked to have said that they don’t have any desire to have sex anymore. It’s just gone. Now, I’ve talked about desire a lot on this…

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Episode 271 – Not Liking the Sex You’re Having ||Embracing You Teaser||

  • Post published:June 30, 2023
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Do you not like sex or do you just not like the sex that you're having? Oftentimes, we actually just don't like the sex that we're having. Listen to this…

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Episode 270 – Sexual Compatibility

  • Post published:June 23, 2023
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Do you worry that you aren’t sexually compatible with your spouse? I think truly being sexually incompatible is rare. But in this episode, we talk about those questions you may…

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Episode 269 – Emotional or Physical Intimacy First?

  • Post published:June 16, 2023
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One of the most common disagreements I hear from couples about sex are about emotional and physical intimacy and which goes first. In my mind, it looks a lot like…

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Episode 268 – Affection Without Expectation

  • Post published:June 9, 2023
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When I was first married to my first husband, it felt like he ALWAYS wanted sex. If I showed him any affection at all, it had to lead to sex.…

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Episode 267 – Sexual Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning

  • Post published:June 2, 2023
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Let me ask you a question. Are you overfunctioning or underfunctioning in your sexual relationship with your spouse? Taking a look at yourself and honestly answering this question can help…

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Episode 266 – The Sexual Conditioning of Young Adults that Keep Them From Great Relationships – Pt. 2

  • Post published:May 26, 2023
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This is part two of an amazing interview I did with fellow life coach Julie Balkman. This week we’re talking more about our young adults and how they are really…

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Episode 265 – The Sexual Conditioning of Young Adults that Keep Them From Great Relationships – Pt. 1

  • Post published:May 19, 2023
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This is part one of an amazing interview I did with fellow life coach Julie Balkman. I really wanted to do this interview with Julie because I think a lot…

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Episode 264 – Igniting Passion In Your Sex Life

  • Post published:May 12, 2023
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Have you noticed that the passion in your sex life has disappeared? It’s time to ignite it again, don’t you think? I was recently on Ashlee Sorenson’s podcast called A…

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What is sex?

Episode 263 – How Do You Define Sex?

  • Post published:May 5, 2023
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Our definition of sex can really affect how much sex we’re getting. So, how do you define sex? Is sex just penetration and orgasm? Or are there other activities that…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 406 – When Self-Betrayal Still Isn’t Enough: The Painful Paradox of Duty Sex

    In this episode, I’ll talk about one of the most painful sexual dynamics I see in marriages: when a wife has been self-betraying for years by having sex she doesn’t want, while her husband still feels unsatisfied. I’ll explain why orgasms aren’t the same thing as satisfaction, and how duty sex can actually block the connection both partners are craving. I’ll unpack how this pattern creates deep resentment for her, confusion for him, and eventually a crisis point that forces the relationship to change. I’ll also share what real repair can look like, how couples can move from obligation to genuine desire, and why quality and connection matter far more than frequency. This episode will be especially helpful for anyone who feels stuck in a painful sexual stalemate and wants clarity on what’s really going wrong and what healing could look like.

    Episode 406 – When Self-Betrayal Still Isn’t Enough: The Painful Paradox of Duty Sex
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