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teens interrupting sex

Episode 331 – Are Your Teens Interrupting Your Sex Life?

  • Post published:August 23, 2024
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I recently got a DM from a listener asking me how to navigate her sexual relationship with teens in the house. We often think that little kids make it harder…

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Consumption vs Connection

Episode 330 – Consumption vs Connection

  • Post published:August 16, 2024
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I recently had the opportunity to be a guest on the Therapy Brothers Podcast. I talked with Tyler and Brannon about the difference between consumption and connection. I really enjoyed…

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mindful sex

Episode 329 – A Different Way to Approach Sex

  • Post published:August 9, 2024
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What if I told you that the way you have been thinking about sex is wrong? What if that’s the reason you don’t have the sex life that you thought…

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Fantasy vs Reality

Episode 328 – Fantasy vs Desire

  • Post published:August 2, 2024
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I’ve noticed a lot of people expressing problems with their spouse’s fantasies. They don’t understand certain fantasies, and they are afraid that their spouse wants to turn them into reality.…

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Episode 327 – Traits of Healthy Couples

  • Post published:July 26, 2024
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Do you know what a healthy relationship looks like? Many of us don’t because our parents didn’t know what a healthy couple looked like either. But we can change that…

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Episode 326 – Mining for Conflict to Increase Intimacy

  • Post published:July 19, 2024
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In this episode, I want to talk about something that may make you feel a little uncomfortable - mining for conflict. It is absolutely crucial for the health and intimacy…

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when sex is hard

Episode 325 – Why Sex Seems So Hard

  • Post published:July 12, 2024
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In this episode, I want to talk about a question I get asked all of the time. It’s said in different ways, but it all comes down to this -…

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Episode 324 – Are Devices Hurting Your Sex Life?

  • Post published:July 5, 2024
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In this episode, I want to talk about something that is more and more relevant in our digital age - how devices are hurting marriages and sexual relationships. Because this…

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quality over quantity

Episode 323 – How Much Sex is Normal in Marriage?

  • Post published:June 28, 2024
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This is something I get asked all the time! I understand why people want to know, but the answer isn’t so black and white. In this episode we’re going to…

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Episode 322 – Feeling Like You Are Never Enough Sexually

  • Post published:June 21, 2024
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Have you ever felt like you weren’t enough in your life? Most people do, but when that feeling creeps into the bedroom, it can be incredibly frustrating and disheartening. Maybe…

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Episode 321 – Sexual Martyrdom

  • Post published:June 14, 2024
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In this episode, we are going to talk about a topic that’s all too common but not often discussed—sexual martyrdom in marriage. I’ll answer questions like: What does it mean…

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Episode 320 – Using Sex As A Bandaid

  • Post published:June 7, 2024
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A while ago, I was at an event with a lot of other women. A woman sat down next to me and asked, “What if the sex is really good,…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You’re Just Trying to Help

    What happens when “help” from your spouse starts to feel more like criticism? In this episode, I talk about why even well-intentioned advice can feel like an attack when it isn’t invited first, especially in conversations about sex and intimacy. I walk through how unsolicited feedback triggers defensiveness in our nervous systems, why both higher-desire and lower-desire spouses fall into this pattern, and how asking for consent before sharing can completely change the conversation. We’ll also talk about practical ways to create emotional safety, move from defensiveness to curiosity, and build a marriage where both people actually feel heard. Sometimes the smallest shift, simply asking “Can I?”, can open the door to the kind of connection you’ve been wanting all along.

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