The more you try to resist or push away negative emotion, the bigger it grows. But if you just learn to sit with it, move towards it, you are willing to have the whole human experience. And that is a life worth living!
In this episode we talk about how to get everything you want for Christmas. It’s probably NOT what you think….
In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I am sharing with you how important the emotion of gratitude is in your life and mine.
Tony Overbay, LMFT shares with us how Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), can help us improve the communication with our partner.
All couples have disagreements, but the ones who learn to solve their problems by fighting differently and fair are the ones who tend to stick together. In this episode I share 5 steps to fighting fair with your spouse.
Celeste Davis (MarriageLaboratory.com), joins me in discussing different experiments she has conducted in her marriage to improve communication.
I was interviewed by Celeste Davis of Marriage Laboratory on our false expectation of happiness in life and in marriage. Listen to the episode.
One of the keys to communication in marriage, is communicating well during a conflict. Conflict is inevitable in any marriage. Learning how to resolve those conflicts is key to sustaining…
“By Small and simple things are great things brought to pass.” The little things we do to build and strengthen our marriage add up. They compound. What small choices are you making daily that contribute the demise or the strengthening of your marriage?
When something negative happens, our brains automatically make up a story to protect us. What are the stories that you tell yourself to protect yourself from feeling negative emotions? What stories disengage you from your spouse or make them into a villain? While this is a great way to protect ourselves, it takes us further away from creating the emotional intimacy and connection that we all crave in our relationships. So what stories are you telling yourself?
Have you ever thought “Did I marry the wrong person?” or “Are we really meant to be?” Just about every married person I know has had those thoughts. But in this episode, we talk about why those thoughts aren’t serving you and your marriage.
The word SHOULD indicates an expectation, an obligation, a duty, and is typically used when criticizing someone. And usually when we “should” on others we have an expectation that they be LIKE US. And not only do we think they should be, think, or do like us, we expect them to be the perfect version of us. We have a personal set of rules of how people should conduct their lives. And when they don’t, it totally sets us up for anger, negativity, and disappointment. Talk about a set up for failure! Right? But when we drop the “shoulds” or the expectations we have of people, and just LOVE them we are able to create much better results in our lives, better relationships, and better marriages.