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Episode  418 – Your Wife Isn’t A Problem To Solve

  • Post published:April 24, 2026
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What if the very thing you’re doing to improve your sex life is actually making it worse? In this episode, I’m breaking down the “fix-it” mentality so many men bring…

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Episode 417 – Better Foreplay: What Actually Works (And What Doesn’t)

  • Post published:April 17, 2026
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In this episode, I talk about how most of us have misunderstood foreplay and why it’s not just something that happens right before sex. I share how true connection and…

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Episode 416 – Did You Marry the Right Person? The Only Two Things That Matter

  • Post published:April 10, 2026
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Have you ever caught yourself wondering, “Did I marry the right person?” I want to show you why that question is actually leading you in the wrong direction and what…

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Episode 415 – The ABC Loop: How to Stop Pressuring Your Spouse About Sex

  • Post published:April 3, 2026
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If you’ve been trying everything to fix your sex life and nothing seems to be working, this episode might feel a little uncomfortable, but also like a breath of fresh…

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Episode 414 – Mutual Masturbation

  • Post published:March 27, 2026
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In this episode, I talk about a sexual experience that doesn’t get discussed nearly enough, mutual masturbation, and why it can be so powerful for connection, communication, and intimacy in…

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Episode 413 – One-Sided Intimacy

  • Post published:March 20, 2026
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What if intimacy in your marriage didn’t actually depend on your spouse showing up first? In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful shift that changes how we think about emotional…

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Episode 412 – From Passive to Active: Owning Your Sexual Desire

  • Post published:March 13, 2026
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Many women assume their lack of desire means something is wrong with them, but in this episode, I am going to explain that the real issue is often passive sexuality.…

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Episode 411 – Is Your Sex Life Nourishing or Depleting?

  • Post published:March 6, 2026
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I want to talk about why sex can feel draining instead of connecting, even when it’s happening regularly, and how that disconnect quietly impacts a marriage. What does nourishing sex…

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Episode 410 – When Obligation Kills Desire

  • Post published:February 27, 2026
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When a woman says she’d be completely fine never having sex again, I know something important has already broken. In this episode, I unpack why so many women in faith-based…

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Episode 409 – Wanting to Be Desired and Chosen

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Have you ever had the experience where your spouse walks past you in the kitchen and doesn’t even acknowledge you? Or when it seems like they’d rather scroll on their…

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Episode 408 – The Six Stages of Marriage (And Why Many Quit at Stage 3)

  • Post published:February 13, 2026
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In this episode of Sex for Saints, I walk through the six stages of marriage and explain why so many couples feel stuck, disconnected, or ready to give up around…

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Episode 407 – When You Don’t Find Your Husband’s Body Attractive

  • Post published:February 6, 2026
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In this episode, I talk about a struggle I hear from women all the time but that rarely gets named out loud: loving your husband deeply while feeling disconnected from…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 418 – Your Wife Isn’t A Problem To Solve

    What if the very thing you’re doing to improve your sex life is actually making it worse? In this episode, I’m breaking down the “fix-it” mentality so many men bring into their relationship and why it creates pressure, shame, and disconnection instead of desire. I share what to do instead, including how to be present, listen without trying to solve, and approach intimacy as a team. We also talk about what this shift looks like in real conversations and how both partners can take ownership of their part. When you stop trying to fix your spouse and start truly seeing them, you create the conditions where real connection and desire can grow.

    Episode  418 – Your Wife Isn’t A Problem To Solve
    Episode 418 – Your Wife Isn’t A Problem To Solve
    April 24, 2026
    Episode 417 – Better Foreplay: What Actually Works (And What Doesn’t)
    April 17, 2026
    Episode 416 – Did You Marry the Right Person? The Only Two Things That Matter
    April 10, 2026
    Episode 415 – The ABC Loop: How to Stop Pressuring Your Spouse About Sex
    April 3, 2026
    Episode 414 – Mutual Masturbation
    March 27, 2026
    Episode 413 – One-Sided Intimacy
    March 20, 2026
    Episode 412 – From Passive to Active: Owning Your Sexual Desire
    March 13, 2026
    Episode 411 – Is Your Sex Life Nourishing or Depleting?
    March 6, 2026
    Episode 410 – When Obligation Kills Desire
    February 27, 2026
    Episode 409 – Wanting to Be Desired and Chosen
    February 20, 2026
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