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Episode 97 – My Spouse Looks at Pornography

Post published:February 28, 2020
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An interview with Dr. Cameron Staley.

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Sex for Saints

As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

In this episode, I’ll talk about one of the most painful sexual dynamics I see in marriages: when a wife has been self-betraying for years by having sex she doesn’t want, while her husband still feels unsatisfied. I’ll explain why orgasms aren’t the same thing as satisfaction, and how duty sex can actually block the connection both partners are craving. I’ll unpack how this pattern creates deep resentment for her, confusion for him, and eventually a crisis point that forces the relationship to change. I’ll also share what real repair can look like, how couples can move from obligation to genuine desire, and why quality and connection matter far more than frequency. This episode will be especially helpful for anyone who feels stuck in a painful sexual stalemate and wants clarity on what’s really going wrong and what healing could look like.

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