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MARRIAGE IQ PODCAST

Marriage IQ Podcast

  • Post published:August 21, 2025
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What if sexual agency isn’t just about saying “yes” or “no”—but about knowing yourself deeply enough to choose with intention? And what does healthy sexuality really look like in marriage—especially…

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Living Beyond the Shadow of Doubt

Living Beyond the Shadow of Doubt Podcast

  • Post published:August 6, 2025
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I really enjoyed this interview I did with Meagan Skidmore about how I don't believe sexuality will take us to hell. Listen to it here.

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Moms on the Rise Podcast

  • Post published:July 30, 2025
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This was such a fun podcast interview! If you’ve ever thought something needs to change in my marriage, but you’re not sure where to begin — this conversation is your…

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Seasons of Joy Podcast

  • Post published:March 18, 2025
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In this eye-opening conversation, I chatted with Jill Pack, a life and relationship coach. We talked about how midlife women can embrace their sexuality and find wholeness. Listen to it…

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Latter-day Life Coaches Podcast

  • Post published:November 19, 2024
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I got to join Heather from the LDS Life Coaches podcast to talk about the complex topic of sexual desire in marriage. We focused on the common challenges of different…

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DatingAdvice.com

  • Post published:September 25, 2024
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I really would like you to check out this article from DatingAdvice.com. We talk about how years of chastity lessons can really affect a marriage. It's a wonderful article! I…

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Fresh Living

Fresh Living on KUTV

  • Post published:July 30, 2024
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In this great TV interview, I got to speak with Kari Hawker-Diaz of Fresh Living about the impact of marriage on women's health. So, if you're looking to improve your…

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consumption vs connection

Therapy Brothers Podcast

  • Post published:July 16, 2024
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In this great episode, I got to talk with Tyler and Brannon about the difference between consumption and connection in relationships. We explored how focusing on physical pleasure versus emotional…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You’re Just Trying to Help

    What happens when “help” from your spouse starts to feel more like criticism? In this episode, I talk about why even well-intentioned advice can feel like an attack when it isn’t invited first, especially in conversations about sex and intimacy. I walk through how unsolicited feedback triggers defensiveness in our nervous systems, why both higher-desire and lower-desire spouses fall into this pattern, and how asking for consent before sharing can completely change the conversation. We’ll also talk about practical ways to create emotional safety, move from defensiveness to curiosity, and build a marriage where both people actually feel heard. Sometimes the smallest shift, simply asking “Can I?”, can open the door to the kind of connection you’ve been wanting all along.

    Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You’re Just Trying to Help
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    June 19, 2026
    Episode 425 – Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection
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    Episode 424 – Getting Over Rejection: How to Stop Letting “No” Run Your Marriage
    June 5, 2026
    Episode 423 – The Weight Men Carry Into the Bedroom
    May 29, 2026
    Episode 422 – Slow Down to Connect: The Science of Sexual Mindfulness with Dr. Chelom Leavitt
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    Episode 421 – Why Talks About Sex Keep Going Sideways
    May 15, 2026
    Episode 420 – Redefining Protect and Provide
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    Episode 419 – Sexual Integrity: Becoming Whole
    May 1, 2026
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    April 24, 2026
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