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Episode 409 – Wanting to Be Desired and Chosen

Post published:February 20, 2026
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Have you ever had the experience where your spouse walks past you in the kitchen and doesn’t even acknowledge you? Or when it seems like they’d rather scroll on their…

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As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

Have you ever had the experience where your spouse walks past you in the kitchen and doesn’t even acknowledge you? Or when it seems like they’d rather scroll on their phone than talk to you? In this episode, I break down what it really means to feel desired in marriage and why being wanted is different from being needed. I explain how desire shows up through thoughts, words, actions, and emotional presence, and how many couples misinterpret or block desire without realizing it. I also walk through common reasons desire fades, including exhaustion, resentment, fear of rejection, and misunderstandings about how desire works differently for men and women. Here is what I want you to hear: desire often grows through small, intentional actions rather than waiting to feel it first. With a practical invitation at the end, this episode is full of real ways to really desire your spouse and have them feel desired again. to shift connection and intimacy.

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