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Episode 410 – When Obligation Kills Desire

  • Post published:February 27, 2026
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When a woman says she’d be completely fine never having sex again, I know something important has already broken. In this episode, I unpack why so many women in faith-based…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 410 – When Obligation Kills Desire

    When a woman says she’d be completely fine never having sex again, I know something important has already broken. In this episode, I unpack why so many women in faith-based marriages end up here, even when they once loved sex, and how obligation, pressure, and shame quietly kill desire over time. I walk through both sides of this dynamic, explaining why men often respond with more pursuit and why that panic makes things worse instead of better. I also share what actually helps desire return, including understanding responsive desire, removing pressure, rebuilding trust through touch without agenda, and learning skills most of us were never taught. If sex has started to feel like duty instead of connection, this episode shows why that happened and what makes real desire possible again.

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