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overcoming spouse self-criticism

Episode 379 – I Guess I’m a Terrible Spouse….

  • Post published:July 25, 2025
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You finally build up the courage to say something vulnerable, maybe about feeling disconnected, wanting more intimacy, or missing the spark in your relationship. And then, instead of a conversation,…

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maintenance sex in marriage

Episode 378 – Maintenance Sex

  • Post published:July 18, 2025
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What comes to mind when you hear the phrase “maintenance sex”? For a lot of people, it feels unromantic - maybe even a little cringy. It doesn’t sound poetic or…

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Episode 377 – Good Enough Sex

  • Post published:July 11, 2025
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Have you ever found yourself thinking, “We should have sex… but I’m just not feeling it” - only to go through the motions and walk away feeling disconnected? You’re not…

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enneagram sexual patterns

Episode 376 – The Enneagram And Sex

  • Post published:July 4, 2025
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Why do you react the way you do in sexual situations, whether it’s craving something specific, avoiding certain dynamics, or feeling stuck in the same patterns? And why does your…

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Episode 375 – Sexual Discipline

  • Post published:June 27, 2025
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What if sexual discipline isn’t about restriction, but about freedom? In this episode, I’m exploring a concept that doesn’t get much airtime in Christian marriage spaces: sexual discipline within marriage.…

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Episode 374 – The Marriage Is Great…Except for Sex

  • Post published:June 20, 2025
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You’ve probably heard it, or maybe even said it: “Our marriage is great… except for the sex.” On the surface, it sounds minor. The friendship is solid, the parenting is…

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Episode 373 – When You Feel Stuck in Your Sexual Relationship

  • Post published:June 13, 2025
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In this episode, we’re diving into something that can quietly wear down even the strongest relationships: the Two-Choice Dilemma, a concept from Dr. David Schnarch. It’s what happens when you…

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Episode 372 – Better Sex Isn’t About Technique

  • Post published:June 6, 2025
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What I often see from those who listen to this podcast, or even from my clients, is that they want a quick fix to their problems in the bedroom. They…

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Episode 371 – Why Do They Want To Try That?

  • Post published:May 30, 2025
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When your spouse suggests trying something new sexually, like a different position, a toy, or even roleplay, it can catch you off guard. Maybe your first thought is, “Where did…

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Episode 370 – When It Feels Like It’s Never Enough

  • Post published:May 23, 2025
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Have you ever felt like no matter how much you grow or how open you are to trying new things, it still doesn’t feel like enough for your partner? Maybe…

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Episode 369 – Are You Initiating Too Much?

  • Post published:May 16, 2025
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Are you the one who always initiates sex in your relationship, and you’re starting to feel burnt out by it? In this episode, we explore a common dynamic I see…

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mutually fulfilling sex in marriage

Episode 368 – Are You Prioritizing “Your” Kind of Sex Over Connection?

  • Post published:May 9, 2025
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Do you ever feel frustrated when your spouse doesn’t want sex the same way, or as often, as you do? In this episode, we explore how rigid expectations around sex…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 434 – Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On

    What if the problem in your sex life isn’t really about sex at all? In this episode, I’m talking about emotional safety and the powerful role it plays in both your marriage and your sexual relationship. We’ll look at the patterns that slowly break down emotional safety, including criticism, defensiveness, dismissal, and shame, as well as what both partners can do to rebuild trust and connection. I’ll also help you recognize when you may be contributing to an emotionally unsafe environment and show you how curiosity, accountability, repair, and consistency can begin to change those patterns. Because the deepest intimacy happens when both partners feel safe enough to be fully known.

    Episode 434 – Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On
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    Episode 432 – The Natural Man Was Never About Your Sexuality
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    Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You’re Just Trying to Help
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    Episode 426 – When He Stops Initiating
    June 19, 2026
    Episode 425 – Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection
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