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Episode 340 – Four Reasons She’s Not In The Mood

  • Post published:October 25, 2024
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Desire is a topic that comes up a lot in my coaching business. Couples often wonder why she's just not in the mood so in this episode, we're going to…

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Episode 272 – Decision Not Desire

  • Post published:July 7, 2023
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So many women I’ve talked to have said that they don’t have any desire to have sex anymore. It’s just gone. Now, I’ve talked about desire a lot on this…

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Episode 230 – Sex Isn’t A Drive

  • Post published:September 16, 2022
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Have you heard the phrase “sex drive”? I’m sure we all have. But in truth, sex isn’t a drive, it’s a mindset. Why is this important? Because when we think…

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Episode 217 – Reclaiming Desire & Eros

  • Post published:June 17, 2022
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Do you remember what it was like when you were dating your husband? Every touch was electric. You felt alive, maybe for the first time. That was eros energy. The…

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Episode 190 – Creating the Space for Desire

  • Post published:December 10, 2021
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Do you desire sex? If you said no, why is that? Is it because you have lost your desire completely or is it because you aren’t giving yourself enough space…

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Get Your Marriage On Podcast

  • Post published:December 30, 2020
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Breaking Free of Limiting Beliefs for a Better Sex Life with Amanda Louder If you want to embrace your sexuality and love your sex life, then this episode is for…

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Breaking The Silence Podcast

  • Post published:December 16, 2020
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I was interviewed by Creed and Crishelle of Breaking The Silence Podcast. We discussed how I teach clients all day about how to better their sexual health, and as a mom…

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Episode 136 – Willingness Is The Entry Point

  • Post published:November 27, 2020
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When your head hits the pillow exhausted - the last thing you might want is sex. But your partner may have other ideas.  Now what?  Give in with resentment and…

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Episode 133 – Competing Desires

  • Post published:November 6, 2020
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 Does your spouse think he is not a priority in your life?  Could he be right?  Today I will dive into true desire and false desire and how to manage…

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Brighter Side of Marriage Podcast

  • Post published:September 14, 2020
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I was interviewed by Monica Tanner of Brighter Side of Marriage Podcast.  We discuss how to change your mindset to increase desire and why that is so beneficial to becoming…

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Episode 124 – The Higher Desire Wife

  • Post published:September 4, 2020
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You asked for it - you got it.  To all of you women who are the higher desire partner - here you go. This podcast will go over emotional, physical…

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Episode 115 – Fantasy

  • Post published:July 3, 2020
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 Let’s talk about fantasy. When it comes to sex, what is an appropriate fantasy and what is not? What benefits the marriage and what destroys it? Today I will teach…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 410 – When Obligation Kills Desire

    When a woman says she’d be completely fine never having sex again, I know something important has already broken. In this episode, I unpack why so many women in faith-based marriages end up here, even when they once loved sex, and how obligation, pressure, and shame quietly kill desire over time. I walk through both sides of this dynamic, explaining why men often respond with more pursuit and why that panic makes things worse instead of better. I also share what actually helps desire return, including understanding responsive desire, removing pressure, rebuilding trust through touch without agenda, and learning skills most of us were never taught. If sex has started to feel like duty instead of connection, this episode shows why that happened and what makes real desire possible again.

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