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Read more about the article Episode 49 – The Victim Mentality

Episode 49 – The Victim Mentality

  • Post published:March 29, 2019
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Are you stuck in a victim mentality?

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Read more about the article Episode 48 – When Things Don’t Go As Planned

Episode 48 – When Things Don’t Go As Planned

  • Post published:March 22, 2019
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What can we choose to think and believe about our life when things are so different than what we wanted.

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Wilted Flower (Part 2)

  • Post published:March 21, 2019
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I’ve often written and spoken about how lost I was when I was married to my first husband. In my post yesterday I talked about being a wilted flower. A…

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Wilted Flower

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When I was a teenager I was vibrant, a high-achiever, confident, and wouldn’t let anything stop me. Fast forward to my late 20s and I was an empty shell. There…

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Read more about the article Episode 47 – The Higher Desire Partner

Episode 47 – The Higher Desire Partner

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Are you the higher desire partner in your relationship? In this episode, we discuss strategies to help you build the intimate relationship with your spouse that you’ve always wanted. Play…

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3 in 30 Podcast

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I was interviewed by Rachel of 3 in 30 Takeaways For Moms Podcast.  It was a great interview on step-parenting!

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Read more about the article Episode 46 – You’ll Find Exactly What You Are Looking For

Episode 46 – You’ll Find Exactly What You Are Looking For

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Your brain will find evidence of whatever it is you are looking for in your spouse and your marriage. So what are you looking for?

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Read more about the article Episode 45 – Reacting vs. Responding

Episode 45 – Reacting vs. Responding

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Often we react to situations in a split second.  We are not even conscious of the thoughts that drive our feelings and actions and we react to a situation poorly. …

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Episode 44 – Judgment & Criticism

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Why do we feel judged? Most of the time it’s a story we make up in our heads based on our insecurities. But what about when they actually say it? What do you do? In this podcast, we will address what judgment and criticism are, and what to do when you do feel you are being judged by others.

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Read more about the article Episode 43 – Needing Validation

Episode 43 – Needing Validation

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When we understand who we are and our unchanging worth, needing outside validation is no longer something we need or crave.

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Read more about the article Episode 42 – Unconditional Love

Episode 42 – Unconditional Love

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We don’t love other people because they deserve it, we love others because love feels amazing. It’s a gift we give ourselves.

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Episode 41 – Am I Being Abused?

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Some people want to be seen as victims so they claim they are abused. Others refuse to see the abuse because they don’t want to be a victim or they think the behavior is normal. So what is abuse? We will discuss it in detail in this episode.

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

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    I want to talk about why sex can feel draining instead of connecting, even when it’s happening regularly, and how that disconnect quietly impacts a marriage. What does nourishing sex actually look like and why does obligation, performance, and one-sided dynamics make intimacy feel heavy instead of life-giving? Through real client stories, I will break down how emotional safety, presence, and mutual desire change both the individual and the relationship experience of sex. With my normal directness, I will share practical ways couples can begin shifting from sex that depletes to sex that genuinely feeds connection. This conversation is about creating intimacy that both partners look forward to, not endure. You’re going to love it.

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