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Episode 426 – When He Stops Initiating

  • Post published:June 19, 2026
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How do you reconnect with your spouse after so much distance that you’re not even sure you want things to go back to the way they were? In this episode,…

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Episode 425 – Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection

  • Post published:June 12, 2026
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When the higher desire partner stops initiating after repeated rejection, it sets off a painful cycle that neither spouse knows how to break. In this episode, we walk through why…

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Episode 424 – Getting Over Rejection: How to Stop Letting “No” Run Your Marriage

  • Post published:June 5, 2026
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When sexual rejection builds up in a marriage, it rarely stays contained to the bedroom. It seeps into everything — the emotional atmosphere, the small daily gestures, and eventually the…

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Episode 423 – The Weight Men Carry Into the Bedroom

  • Post published:May 29, 2026
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What happens when a man spends his whole life believing his desire could hurt someone? In this episode, I will explore how religious and cultural messages about male sexuality can…

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Episode 422 – Slow Down to Connect: The Science of Sexual Mindfulness with Dr. Chelom Leavitt

  • Post published:May 22, 2026
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What if the key to a more connected, nourishing sex life is simply slowing down? In this episode of Sex for Saints, I will talk with sex researcher Chelom Leavitt…

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Episode 421 – Why Talks About Sex Keep Going Sideways

  • Post published:May 15, 2026
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Hard conversations don’t fall apart because of what’s said, but often because of how they start. In this episode, I will show you why “ambush conversations” trigger defensiveness and disconnection,…

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Episode 420 – Redefining Protect and Provide

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What if “protect and provide” isn’t outdated, but just misunderstood? In this episode, I will break down how these ideas have quietly shaped marriages and why the old definitions may…

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Episode 419 – Sexual Integrity: Becoming Whole

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What if the tension you feel around sex isn’t about your relationship at all, but about being divided within yourself? In this episode, I will unpack what sexual integrity really…

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Episode  418 – Your Wife Isn’t A Problem To Solve

  • Post published:April 24, 2026
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What if the very thing you’re doing to improve your sex life is actually making it worse? In this episode, I’m breaking down the “fix-it” mentality so many men bring…

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Episode 417 – Better Foreplay: What Actually Works (And What Doesn’t)

  • Post published:April 17, 2026
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In this episode, I talk about how most of us have misunderstood foreplay and why it’s not just something that happens right before sex. I share how true connection and…

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Episode 416 – Did You Marry the Right Person? The Only Two Things That Matter

  • Post published:April 10, 2026
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Have you ever caught yourself wondering, “Did I marry the right person?” I want to show you why that question is actually leading you in the wrong direction and what…

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Episode 415 – The ABC Loop: How to Stop Pressuring Your Spouse About Sex

  • Post published:April 3, 2026
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If you’ve been trying everything to fix your sex life and nothing seems to be working, this episode might feel a little uncomfortable, but also like a breath of fresh…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 426 – When He Stops Initiating

    How do you reconnect with your spouse after so much distance that you’re not even sure you want things to go back to the way they were? In this episode, I talk about what often happens when the higher desire partner stops initiating and why that silence can bring both relief and unexpected grief for women. I explore responsive desire, avoidance, emotional safety, and the complicated vulnerability of reaching back toward someone after months or years of disconnection. We also talk about what healthy initiation can actually look like, how to rebuild trust in small ways, and what to do if you’re not even sure you want the sexual relationship to return at all. If you’ve ever felt stuck between wanting closeness and wanting to protect yourself, this episode will help you understand what may really be happening underneath it all.

    Episode 426 – When He Stops Initiating
    Episode 426 – When He Stops Initiating
    June 19, 2026
    Episode 425 – Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection
    June 12, 2026
    Episode 424 – Getting Over Rejection: How to Stop Letting “No” Run Your Marriage
    June 5, 2026
    Episode 423 – The Weight Men Carry Into the Bedroom
    May 29, 2026
    Episode 422 – Slow Down to Connect: The Science of Sexual Mindfulness with Dr. Chelom Leavitt
    May 22, 2026
    Episode 421 – Why Talks About Sex Keep Going Sideways
    May 15, 2026
    Episode 420 – Redefining Protect and Provide
    May 8, 2026
    Episode 419 – Sexual Integrity: Becoming Whole
    May 1, 2026
    Episode 418 – Your Wife Isn’t A Problem To Solve
    April 24, 2026
    Episode 417 – Better Foreplay: What Actually Works (And What Doesn’t)
    April 17, 2026
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