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Episode 434 – Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On

  • Post published:August 14, 2026
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What if the problem in your sex life isn’t really about sex at all? In this episode, I’m talking about emotional safety and the powerful role it plays in both…

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Episode 433 – Arousal Without an Agenda

  • Post published:August 7, 2026
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Have you ever stopped yourself from feeling close to your spouse because you were worried about where it might lead? In this episode, I explore why arousal, or what the…

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Sex, Shame, and Faith: What Actually Helps Latter-day Saint and Christian Marriages

  • Post published:August 6, 2026
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I believe sex is meant to be good, and I believe you can be fully sexual and fully faithful at the same time. Most of the men, women, and couples…

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Episode 432 – The Natural Man Was Never About Your Sexuality

  • Post published:July 31, 2026
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In this final episode of my five-part series, I challenge the idea that our sexuality is the "natural man" and offer a new framework for understanding what King Benjamin was…

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Episode 431 – The Sin Next to Murder

  • Post published:July 24, 2026
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What if one of the most familiar teachings about sexuality deserves a second look? In this episode, I take a careful look at Alma 39 and the teaching that sexual…

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Episode 430 – Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited – What It Did to Him

  • Post published:July 17, 2026
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What if the messages you received about sexuality shaped you more than you ever realized? In this third episode of my series, I explore how decades of cultural and religious…

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Episode 429 – Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited – What It Did to Her

  • Post published:July 10, 2026
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Have you ever wondered why intimacy can feel so difficult, even when you've done everything "right"? In this episode, I explore how the messages many women received growing up can…

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Episode 428 – Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited – The Hundred-Year Story

  • Post published:July 3, 2026
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What if the struggles you're experiencing in your marriage started long before you ever said "I do"? In this episode, I kick off a five-part series exploring the history, teachings,…

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Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You’re Just Trying to Help

  • Post published:June 26, 2026
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What happens when “help” from your spouse starts to feel more like criticism? In this episode, I talk about why even well-intentioned advice can feel like an attack when it…

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Episode 426 – When He Stops Initiating

  • Post published:June 19, 2026
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How do you reconnect with your spouse after so much distance that you’re not even sure you want things to go back to the way they were? In this episode,…

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Episode 425 – Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection

  • Post published:June 12, 2026
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When the higher desire partner stops initiating after repeated rejection, it sets off a painful cycle that neither spouse knows how to break. In this episode, we walk through why…

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Episode 424 – Getting Over Rejection: How to Stop Letting “No” Run Your Marriage

  • Post published:June 5, 2026
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When sexual rejection builds up in a marriage, it rarely stays contained to the bedroom. It seeps into everything — the emotional atmosphere, the small daily gestures, and eventually the…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 434 – Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On

    What if the problem in your sex life isn’t really about sex at all? In this episode, I’m talking about emotional safety and the powerful role it plays in both your marriage and your sexual relationship. We’ll look at the patterns that slowly break down emotional safety, including criticism, defensiveness, dismissal, and shame, as well as what both partners can do to rebuild trust and connection. I’ll also help you recognize when you may be contributing to an emotionally unsafe environment and show you how curiosity, accountability, repair, and consistency can begin to change those patterns. Because the deepest intimacy happens when both partners feel safe enough to be fully known.

    Episode 434 – Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On
    Episode 434 – Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On
    August 14, 2026
    Episode 433 – Arousal Without an Agenda
    August 7, 2026
    Episode 432 – The Natural Man Was Never About Your Sexuality
    July 31, 2026
    Episode 431 – The Sin Next to Murder
    July 24, 2026
    Episode 430 – Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited – What It Did to Him
    July 17, 2026
    Episode 429 – Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited – What It Did to Her
    July 10, 2026
    Episode 428 – Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited – The Hundred-Year Story
    July 3, 2026
    Episode 427 – Why Your Spouse Gets Defensive When You’re Just Trying to Help
    June 26, 2026
    Episode 426 – When He Stops Initiating
    June 19, 2026
    Episode 425 – Learning to Initiate Again After Rejection
    June 12, 2026
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