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Read more about the article Episode 92 – Discovering What Turns You On

Episode 92 – Discovering What Turns You On

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It's time to develop your erotic mind.

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Episode 82 – Sex Rules

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We all have rules and expectations with sex. Do you know yours?

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Read more about the article Episode 79 – Why I Believe

Episode 79 – Why I Believe

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My Testimony of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

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Read more about the article Episode 78 – Guilt, Shame, and Eroticism

Episode 78 – Guilt, Shame, and Eroticism

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In a recent survey I conducted, 40% of married women said they feel guilt and shame about sex.  In this episode, we are addressing where this guilt and shame are…

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Read more about the article Episode 77 – Rejection

Episode 77 – Rejection

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Do you often reject your spouse’s advances for sex?  Do you feel rejected by them?  Rejection is a huge issue for many couples.  Find out why we feel rejected and…

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Read more about the article Episode 76 – Default Sex Thoughts

Episode 76 – Default Sex Thoughts

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What thoughts does your brain offer to you when you think about sex?

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Read more about the article Episode 75 – The Big “O”

Episode 75 – The Big “O”

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This week's episode is all about orgasms. What are they? What do you they feel like? What keeps you from having one?   Play in a new window Download Show Summary:…

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Read more about the article Episode 73 – I’m Not In The Mood

Episode 73 – I’m Not In The Mood

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What things put you in the mood? What things don’t?

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Read more about the article Episode 72 – I’m Not Attracted to My Spouse

Episode 72 – I’m Not Attracted to My Spouse

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What happens when you find yourself not attracted to your spouse anymore?

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Episode 70 – Changing Our Beliefs About Sex

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What do you believe about sex and how does that shape your relationship with yourself and your spouse?

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Read more about the article Episode 69 – Asking Good Questions

Episode 69 – Asking Good Questions

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Seek the wisdom in your own brain by asking good questions.

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Episode 68 – Watching Your Brain

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Do you ever watch yourself think?

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 403 – Sex As A Pacifier

    In this episode, I’m inviting you to look at a pattern that might be quietly shaping your sex life without you realizing it. We’re talking about what happens when sex becomes a way to soothe anxiety, seek reassurance, or calm uncomfortable emotions instead of a place of desire and connection. I share real examples of how this shows up in marriages, why it feels helpful in the moment, and why it often leaves both partners feeling disconnected afterward. Most importantly, we explore what becomes possible when sex no longer has to carry the weight of proving everything is okay. If you want a sex life that feels lighter, more present, and rooted in genuine connection, this episode is for you.

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