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Guilt

Episode 274 – Sexual Conditioning Guilt

  • Post published:July 21, 2023
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I often hear from my clients that they feel guilty about certain sexual things. When we really look into it, I question whether they’re feeling guilty, which to me means…

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Husbands in Law Podcast

  • Post published:July 17, 2023
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Let’s face it… Sex can feel scary and a bit overwhelming, especially if you have been in a relationship where there has been betrayal. I joined them to give you…

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triggers

Episode 273 – Overcoming Triggers – An Interview with Crystal Haitsma

  • Post published:July 14, 2023
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In this podcast, I’m talking with Crystal Haitsma about triggers. We hear the word all the time nowadays, but what does it really mean and how is it affecting our…

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decision

Episode 272 – Decision Not Desire

  • Post published:July 7, 2023
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So many women I’ve talked to have said that they don’t have any desire to have sex anymore. It’s just gone. Now, I’ve talked about desire a lot on this…

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Episode 271 – Not Liking the Sex You’re Having ||Embracing You Teaser||

  • Post published:June 30, 2023
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Do you not like sex or do you just not like the sex that you're having? Oftentimes, we actually just don't like the sex that we're having. Listen to this…

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sexual compatibility

Episode 270 – Sexual Compatibility

  • Post published:June 23, 2023
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Do you worry that you aren’t sexually compatible with your spouse? I think truly being sexually incompatible is rare. But in this episode, we talk about those questions you may…

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physical vs emotional intimacy

Episode 269 – Emotional or Physical Intimacy First?

  • Post published:June 16, 2023
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One of the most common disagreements I hear from couples about sex are about emotional and physical intimacy and which goes first. In my mind, it looks a lot like…

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Episode 268 – Affection Without Expectation

  • Post published:June 9, 2023
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When I was first married to my first husband, it felt like he ALWAYS wanted sex. If I showed him any affection at all, it had to lead to sex.…

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Sexual Overfunctioning Sexual Underfunctioning

Episode 267 – Sexual Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning

  • Post published:June 2, 2023
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Let me ask you a question. Are you overfunctioning or underfunctioning in your sexual relationship with your spouse? Taking a look at yourself and honestly answering this question can help…

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Believing you ARE a Good Mom Podcast

  • Post published:June 1, 2023
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I was interviewed by Emily Wardrop of Believe you ARE a Good Mom podcast. We talked about how sex is for YOU even when your kids are young. Listen here. 

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Episode 266 – The Sexual Conditioning of Young Adults that Keep Them From Great Relationships – Pt. 2

  • Post published:May 26, 2023
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This is part two of an amazing interview I did with fellow life coach Julie Balkman. This week we’re talking more about our young adults and how they are really…

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Episode 265 – The Sexual Conditioning of Young Adults that Keep Them From Great Relationships – Pt. 1

  • Post published:May 19, 2023
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This is part one of an amazing interview I did with fellow life coach Julie Balkman. I really wanted to do this interview with Julie because I think a lot…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 389 – The Good Guy She Doesn’t Desire

    In this episode, I’m diving into a pattern I see so often in marriages: good men with the best intentions who unintentionally invalidate their wives’ feelings. I’ll share real stories of couples who get stuck in this cycle and explain why it happens, especially when a husband’s identity is tied so closely to being “the good guy.” You’ll hear how this dynamic leaves wives feeling unseen and husbands frustrated, even though neither partner wants that outcome. Most importantly, I’ll talk about what both husbands and wives can do to break free from this pattern and build deeper connection and intimacy. Whether you see yourself in these stories or simply want a stronger marriage, this episode has something for you.

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