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framing sex as a need

Episode 391 – I Meet Her Needs, Why Won’t She Meet Mine?

  • Post published:October 17, 2025

So many men tell me, “I meet all her needs, why can’t she meet mine?” Almost always that “need” is sex. I understand the frustration behind that question, but here’s…

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Neuroplasticity in relationships

Episode 390 – The Brain Chemistry of Sex

  • Post published:October 10, 2025

Have you ever wondered why you can feel like a totally different person during sex than afterward? In this episode, I break down what’s actually happening in your brain before,…

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marriage defensiveness

Episode 389 – The Good Guy She Doesn’t Desire

  • Post published:October 3, 2025

In this episode, I’m diving into a pattern I see so often in marriages: good men with the best intentions who unintentionally invalidate their wives’ feelings. I’ll share real stories…

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hidden grief in religious communities, sexual grief in conservative faiths,

Episode 388 – Sexual Grief

  • Post published:September 26, 2025

Sexual grief is something many experience but few talk about. In this episode, we explore what it means to grieve the sex life you thought you’d have, and why making…

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Why do wives often reject intimacy in marriage

Episode 387 – She Doesn’t Hate Sex, She Hates Bad Sex

  • Post published:September 19, 2025

In this episode, I’m tackling one of the most common questions I hear in my coaching practice: why do so many women say no to sex? The truth is, it’s…

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novelty in long-term marriage

Episode 386 – Blending Your Erotic Minds: How Novelty and Intimacy Keep Marriage Hot an Interview with Katie Runyan

  • Post published:September 12, 2025

In this episode, I welcome back Katie Runyon of Faithful Fling to explore how playfulness, novelty, and emotional intimacy can transform long-term marriages. Katie shares how role play dates help…

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how to overcome sexual certainty in marriage

Episode 385 – The Dangerous Illusion of Sexual Certainty

  • Post published:September 5, 2025

In this episode, we explore why sexual certainty, which is the belief that you already know exactly how intimacy should look, might actually be blocking passion and connection in your…

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safety vs security in marriage

Episode 384 – The Difference Between Safety and Security in the Sexual Relationship

  • Post published:August 29, 2025

In this episode, we’re unpacking a powerful insight that could completely transform the way you experience intimacy in your marriage. It’s all about the surprising difference between safety and security…

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Boudoir photography transformation

Episode 383 – Learning to Love Your Body: A Conversation with Boudoir Photographer Hope Orr

  • Post published:August 22, 2025

In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful idea I recently heard on the Sex Therapy 101 podcast - a conversation between Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers and my friend Dr.…

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Difference between sex drive and sexual desire

Episode 382 – The Difference Between Sex Drive and Sexual Desire

  • Post published:August 15, 2025

In this episode, we’re diving into a powerful idea I recently heard on the Sex Therapy 101 podcast - a conversation between Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers and my friend Dr.…

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marriage myths debunked

Episode 381 – Bad Marriage Advice

  • Post published:August 8, 2025

Is the marriage advice you’ve heard actually helping or quietly hurting your relationship? In this episode, Amanda interviews marriage coach and author Monica Tanner about her new book Bad Marriage…

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marriage myths debunked

Episode 380 – Learning to Sit with Disappointment

  • Post published:August 1, 2025

What if the key to deeper intimacy was learning how to handle disappointment? In this episode, we’re talking about the one feeling most of us spend our lives avoiding, disappointment,…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 439 – Why the Changes You Make Never Last

    Most couples who come to me have already tried. They have read the books, taken the courses, sat with a therapist, and walked out with a plan they both believed in. And it worked, for a few weeks, maybe a few months, before everything slid back to exactly where it was. In this episode I use an iceberg model I heard Brene Brown describe to explain why that keeps happening. The problem you can see is only the tip. Through the story of one couple who made the same plan five separate times, I walk down all four layers and show why the changes you make never last, and what actually has to shift for them to hold.

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    Episode 439 – Why the Changes You Make Never Last
    Episode 439 – Why the Changes You Make Never Last
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    Episode 438 – The Art of Receiving: Why It’s So Hard and Why It Matters
    September 11, 2026
    Episode 437 – Six Patterns That End Marriages
    September 4, 2026
    Episode 436 – The Seven Deadly Sins in Your Marriage
    August 28, 2026
    Episode 435 – The Paradoxes Running Your Sex Life
    August 21, 2026
    Episode 434 – Emotional Safety: The Foundation Your Marriage and Sex Life Are Built On
    August 14, 2026
    Episode 433 – Arousal Without an Agenda
    August 7, 2026
    Episode 432 – The Natural Man Was Never About Your Sexuality
    July 31, 2026
    Episode 431 – The Sin Next to Murder
    July 24, 2026
    Episode 430 – Sex, Worthiness, and the Rules You Inherited – What It Did to Him
    July 17, 2026
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