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sexual shame in men

Episode 355 – Sexual Shame in Men

  • Post published:February 7, 2025
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A few weeks ago, we talked about prolonged arousal and I touched on sexual shame in men. I promised then that I’d do an entire episode about it because it…

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Episode 354 – Preparing for Valentine’s Day

  • Post published:January 31, 2025
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Valentine’s Day is coming up! Does that thought fill you with excitement or dread? Often when we think about Valentine’s Day, we dream up this scene straight from the movies…

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Episode 353 – Unconditional Love in Marriage

  • Post published:January 24, 2025
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When we think about unconditional love, it always sounds romantic and exciting, right? We’ve all seen the romcoms where they have the kind of love that never falters, regardless of…

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Episode 352 – Prolonging Arousal for Men

  • Post published:January 17, 2025
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Want to make your intimate moments last longer? In this episode, we’re diving into the secrets of prolonging arousal for men, exploring everything from practical techniques and medication options to…

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Episode 351 – Why Is She Not Attracted To Me?

  • Post published:January 10, 2025
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Have you ever found yourself wondering why your wife doesn’t seem to be attracted to you? After all, you do everything you’re “supposed” to do, you’ve been told it works,…

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Episode 350 – The Difference Between Sexuality and Eroticism

  • Post published:January 3, 2025
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When was the last time you felt alive in your marriage? Has it been a while? The longer we’re married, the more sex can become something else on our to-do…

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Episode 349 – Objectifying Your Spouse

  • Post published:December 27, 2024
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Men and women have been conditioned to think that the word “objectifying” is bad. True, it can feel unsettling but sexual relationships thrive when there is a sense of desire…

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Episode 348 – Sexual Surrendering

  • Post published:December 20, 2024
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In this episode, I am going to explore the topic of Sexual Surrender. What does it mean to fully open up, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally with your…

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Episode 347 – Sexual Introverts vs Sexual Extroverts

  • Post published:December 13, 2024
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As with most things, introverts and extroverts approach sex differently. Where introverts often prefer to have time to prepare, extroverts love spontaneity. So when an extrovert marries an introvert, there…

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Episode 346 – How To Get More Connection

  • Post published:December 6, 2024
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We, as humans, are wired for connection, but connection, especially in marriage, is more than just a feeling. It’s the thing that keeps us going through the inevitable ups and…

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Episode 345 – Building a Collaborative Sexual Relationship

  • Post published:November 29, 2024
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Creating a collaborative sexual relationship is so important to your marriage. Collaboration is different from compromise where it’s not just about teamwork, or giving in, but about a mutual commitment…

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Episode 344 – Sexual Caretaking

  • Post published:November 22, 2024
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Do you find yourself worrying more about your partner during your sexual experience than you do yourself? When we feel overly responsible for other’s emotional or physical experience during sex,…

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    As a Certified Sex & Marriage Coach, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Amanda Louder helps conservative Christian women love their sex life!

    In this podcast, Amanda helps women embrace their sexuality so that they can become the woman they were created to be. She teaches you how to integrate sexuality into your marriage in a loving and healthy way, get rid of the drama and negative emotions around sex in your marriage, and develop a better relationship to yourself, your spouse, and your sexuality.

    Episode 410 – When Obligation Kills Desire

    When a woman says she’d be completely fine never having sex again, I know something important has already broken. In this episode, I unpack why so many women in faith-based marriages end up here, even when they once loved sex, and how obligation, pressure, and shame quietly kill desire over time. I walk through both sides of this dynamic, explaining why men often respond with more pursuit and why that panic makes things worse instead of better. I also share what actually helps desire return, including understanding responsive desire, removing pressure, rebuilding trust through touch without agenda, and learning skills most of us were never taught. If sex has started to feel like duty instead of connection, this episode shows why that happened and what makes real desire possible again.

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